The world is a  noisy place and I would argue that for today’s kids, with all of their games, TV shows and extracurriculars, finding the time to just sit and talk is harder and harder. I’m a big advocate for family time and enjoy it above all else. I usually find that if I push my thoughts aside and actually pay attention, my boys will tell me all about their lives, the good and the bad, asking for advice or just including me in their day-to-day.

Yesterday, we spent some time with my family at my aunt’s pool, and the boys spent over 4 hours playing in the water and just hanging out with each other. They hardly fought, instead simply enjoying each other’s company. Without distractions, they were free to use their imagination and be themselves, and it was a lot of fun to watch.

Last night, we got home and snuggled up for a movie night. In the end, it turned out to be one of those moments where the boys dished out their lives and Spence and I just listened. We interjected here and there with our thoughts, but we let the boys talk about everything on their minds and it was wonderful. As a mother, these are the moments I cherish and that I hope continue as the boys grow older into adulthood.

My life is busy, no doubt. And there are times that I reply to them with “yeah?” and “uh huh” because my mind is full of other, less meaningful things. Taking the time to listen is worth it, and last night was a reminder to be more present when the boys talk to me. Life is full of noisy distractions, but moments like this are found in the quiet that lies underneath. What a joyous experience!

Over dinner Friday night, my oldest asked me, “Why do you read so many books and go to seminars?”

I answered, “So, I can be a better wife and mother, and be a better person.”

He looked at me most sincerely and said, “But Mom, you’re already a good mother.”

We moms work hard to give our children the best opportunities, to teach them life’s lessons with love, and to make them feel cherished and worthy. To be affirmed by our children that we’re doing a pretty good job is the best gift a mother could receive.

Happy Mother’s Day!